Bit of a whinge this one. So at work a whole bunch of us are similar in age and were quite friendly, and would go out after work for bevies and the like. This was all good and well until one of the girls at work proclaimed her love to me in front of the rest of the team one night. Obviously, this was very upsetting for all involved (plus I couldn’t believe how poorly she played it – just pathetic), but it was only to get worse – it became a bit awkward at work as she didn’t really want to talk to me at all, but it has also been a bit frustrating that the team sans me continues to go out for fun and games.
I thought that this was going to probably mellow out after said girl left. It did, I felt a lot better at work, but just yesterday I’ve caught wind of the team all heading out together tonight sans me as per usual. The main issue that I have with it is that it’s around the corner from my house.
What do you think? I know that the professional/personal divide is always grey, but there was quite a stark moment when I started to be excluded from the group based on personal, not professional issues. I don’t need to be invited to social activities with work friends, but when work people are the sole invites and one is excluded then it becomes problematic. I haven’t raised this with anyone at work as I don’t want to progress with it any further, but I just can’t seem to reconcile this in my mind.
So far I’ve had three ideas. Firstly, keep ignoring it. This has been my tact up until now but I keep getting frustrated by the ongoing exclusion. Secondly, I thought about bringing it up with one of the team (Asako). I thought that this might be a bit confrontational, and that I might be a bit out of line. The third is probably seeking more advice – from some people I trust at work, then you too, you cyber space reader you.
All a bit of a storm within a tea cup? Yes probably. Ah to over analyse things like I do…
Hey B, I was just about to post and say, "I can't believe this is till haunting you" cos I can't remember how long ago that shamble of a situation occurred.
ReplyDeleteBut HOW exactly did I manage, in the interim, and having since flown halfway around the world, become "one of the team" ???
Or are you saying (asako) because I suggested that idea!??!
ReplyDeleteAh I meant I need your advice. I think it's been okay - I told one of the team about it and it seems to have gotten better. How are you though Poo? Hope you're tops!
ReplyDeleteThat was really scary! I thought in some alternate universe I'd morphed into your world!
ReplyDeleteMaybe theyre scared more of the troup will fall in love with you and have similarly random and turbo awkward pronouncements of love.
Its a possibility.